On Purpose Woman
A Force for Good
On Purpose Woman
Kim Wells Eley
Cover Art by
Get the On Purpose Woman Magazine delivered straight to your inbox!
On Purpose Woman Magazine is published bi-monthly online. We reserve the right to edit or reject any material submitted. Neither the publishing team or the advertisers accept responsibility for errors. Publication and distribution of this magazine does not constitute an endorsement of information, products or services. The publisher reserves the right to reject any advertisement or listing for any reason. To reproduce articles, always credit On Purpose Woman Magazine with the link to the issue. Also, credit the author and leave their bio and contact info intact.
Letter from the Publisher
Happy New Year! Thank you for checking out this issue of On Purpose Woman Magazine.
Do you see the new year as a fresh start? A time to get moving with your goals? Do you have a huge list of things to handle in January? Do you believe that you're supposed to hit the ground running on January 1st and get busy making things happen? Have you ever hit the ground running on January 1st, but by the end of the month, you were discouraged?
I think we have it all wrong with this New Year push. I tried it for years, and it didn't work. Nature is a wonderful teacher if we take the time to observe. In winter, things appear dormant. However, there is a lot going on below the surface. Trees and other plants are doing their thing to get ready for spring. Many wild animals are hibernating, resting up so they can hit the ground running in a couple of months. Why would we be any different?
I'm not saying that you should wait until spring to take action. I am saying that this need to achieve as we step into the new year is counter-intuitive to what our bodies want and need. This can be a time for planning, creating your vision for the year, and planting seeds that, with your nurturing, care and action, will come to fruition in the spring.
Read Karen Tasto’s article on “Time to Hibernate” for more on this topic, and check out Kathryn Yarborough’s article “2020 Vision” about the importance of having a vision for your business. Be sure to read the other articles where our writers share their wisdom, knowledge and heart. They, along with our advertisers have great ideas and resources to make 2020 a banner year!
5 Letter from the Publisher Ginny Robertson
8 Heard AND Respected: How Women Can Boost Their Influence In Three Simple Steps
16 Time to Hibernate
22 2020 Vision
28 Money Mindset Transformation: A Personal Story of Worthiness
Laura Di Franco
38 Be Willing to Go on the Ride Andrea Hylen
44 Business Directory
50 The Time is Now to Own Your Power Nancy Kobel
56 You Said You Loved Me by Tammie Mobley
60 Every Day You Write the Book: Steps to Make It Happen In 2020
Kim Wells Eley
68 Living in the Moment Ginny Robertson
Thank You to Our Advertisers
Andrea Hylen * Baltimore Organizer * BMore Health Coach * Chrisa T.S. * Coach Claudette * Community For Life at Keswick * Dragonfly Communications * Earthsave Baltimore * Inspiration Celebration Spiritual Center * Jewels from Jerri * Julia Mattis Re/Max Advantage * Katye Anna Soulworks * Lisa Diane McCall * Nourishing Journey * Rebel Magic * Soul-utions Hypnosis * Temple In the Woods * Women of the World Festival Baltimore * Women’s Leadership Forum Maryland Public Television
Click our ads!
Inside On Purpose Woman...
Heard AND Respected
How Women Can
Boost Their Influence
In Three Simple Steps
by Claudette Gadsden
"This is it," I thought and took a deep breath.
Sitting back down four minutes and 35 seconds later (which felt like an eternity regardless of what the clock on the wall said), I exhaled and smiled to myself. This is exactly what I envisioned and had been preparing for: presenting my ideas with clarity and confidence in a way that gained respect.
See, the last time I shared my thoughts, I had kept them inside for so long that when I finally had the floor, they came out all at once with so much emotion that I burst into tears. So much for being respected as a female professional.
But not this time. This time, it was different.
I knew how I wanted to be perceived.
I knew exactly what I was going to say.
I made a plan, and I worked on my plan.
1. Know How You Want To Be Perceived
As a professional woman, it's easy to walk into a boardroom playing a subconscious recording of how you're not given the opportunity to speak up. In other words, our influence succumbs to fear and thoughts of powerlessness.
Is that really how you want to show up? Probably not. It's just your default.
The reality is, if we have something to say, we must create the opportunity to say it. It may not always be created for us.
It's time to change your default by showing up exactly as you want to be seen by the world: a confident woman for whom the room falls silent when she stands up to speak. Sound about right to you?
If you're willing to take it a step further, I'd like to challenge you, as my coach challenged me, to consider the following:
• What if you decided that the floor was waiting for you to take it?
• What if you decided you wanted to be a woman who was known for standing in her power and presenting her ideas with confidence?
• What if you showed up full of respect for your ideas and represented them instead of begging for them to be heard and applauded?
So, you know how you want to be perceived. You've prepared for this amazing opportunity and now you need to use the floor to your best advantage. This means you need to know exactly what you're going to say when it's your turn to talk. No stumbling. No second-guessing. No rushing ahead because you're nervous.
I'm talking about clearly, concisely, and confidently communicating your idea and how it serves everyone involved. If you can do this while staying true to your desire to educate others, you'll be viewed as an authority and a source of influence.
I don't know about you, but to me, that sounds like a non-intimidating, respect-inspiring way to present ideas.
The first couple of times you do this, I recommend writing out an exact script of what to say. This doesn't mean you have to read it word-for-word, but it does mean you should think it through word-for-word. And if you want to read it or use it for notes, it's ready.
So you know how you want to be perceived and what you want to say. Now, you need a game plan.
With any new habit, if you don't lay out the exact steps to follow, it's easier to get lost or revert to your default method of showing up, i.e., being loud and emotional.
Some things to consider:
What are you going to say to yourself about yourself before the meeting?
How will you prepare mentally and physically?
What needs to happen for you to feel like it's your turn to take the floor? Remember, the floor and everyone present is waiting for you.
You are closer than you think to being the kind of woman for whom a room falls silent when she stands up to speak. But you have to lead yourself to the stage. It's beautiful when someone sees you as you want to be seen. But they won't create the opportunities or write the script for your epic ideas. It's up to you to create these based on your idea of success.
Influence is an essential skill, and that starts with your ability to influence yourself and how you handle your opportunities.
Look your thoughts squarely in the face, determine whether or not they are empowering the version of who you want to be, and pivot them accordingly.
Align your actions with how you want to show up to the world and follow through even when your feelings haven't caught up yet.
Think through your ideas and create a script that presents them as value-filled solutions that deserve to be considered.
My ability to clearly and confidently communicate my ideas in a way that garners respect is directly linked to my ability to influence myself, just as it will be for you.
So, I'll leave you with the questions I ask myself:
Can I influence myself to take action that is consistent with how I want to be perceived and the value I bring to the table?
Will this action increase or decrease my influence in the world?
3. Make A Plan And Work On Your Plan
2. Know What You Are Going To Say
Coach Claudette W. Gadsden understands how change and transition can impact your life. She helps you navigate through the maze of life to realize your dreams, visions, and aspirations. She is a speaker and corporate trainer. www.CoachClaudette.com.
She is also innkeeper at a small bed and breakfast off the beaten path. www.TempleInTheWoods.com.
A new year is already upon us. Are the cultural pressures and guilt weighing heavily upon you to get back to the gym, start that new project, or get your life on track now?
Perhaps what you really feel like doing is crawling back into bed and pulling the duvet over your head until Spring. You're not alone.
The reason being that your body's inner rhythms are simply naturally aligning with nature.
The conflict lies in the loud cultural bombardment of messages versus our subtle inner voices. We tend to ignore these instinctual whispers.
Making resolutions or intentions for heightened activity is awesome. Perhaps they're just not the best idea for January, the darkest time of the year. Maybe they're best suited for say, mid-February or March.
I'm feeling like a bear right now...receiving and listening to an instinctual and urgent call to head to my cave.
A call to hibernate, snuggle in, slow down my energy output, keep out as much outer stimuli as possible, nourish and replenish.
My soul's calling me to hit the pause button on my outer life, so I can rest, reflect, process, and integrate the past year. Plus, dream and envision for the new year and new decade...to approach it purposefully and protectively.
My sleeping dream life is even affirming this call I feel.
I've experienced quite a transformational year. In fact, the whole past decade has been. I feel like a completely different person from a year ago, the inner shifts have been so profound. I need lots of time to take all this in, to go into introspection mode.
In past years, since my yoga teaching years, I've taught and written about this time of year, the winter months, as being a time of slowing down and going inward.
Just as nature needs to rest and restore for new spring growth, we humans need to as well. It's a natural winter rhythm.
Most of us actually do quite the opposite this time of year. We overextend ourselves all through the holiday season and then come January 1st, we feel the pressures to still increase our activity levels.
So, I had to ask myself, have I really aligned my outer life with my own advice? To be honest, not really.
Yes, over the last years I've slowly let go of depleting activities and engagements during the holidays, but come January 2nd, I'm suddenly pushing myself into full throttle mode. Never have I really, truly aligned my outer life with what I could often feel was my inner rhythm at this darker time of year. I always intended to, though.
In actuality, it would take a snowstorm to keep me hunkered indoors, cozying up by the fire all day with a good novel.
You know how it goes...the best of intentions and then life happens...the to-do lists, the expectations, the pressures to undo the not so healthy habits taken on through the holidays, all this propels you forward in the usual ways. Sound familiar?
The call this winter is too great to ignore.
Snowstorms or not, I'm heeding this call to hibernate. I'm setting up my cave. Gathering my supplies. Creating ritual. Letting my people know. Asking for support. Setting my boundaries. Limiting social engagements. Keeping outer stimuli at bay like news, podcasts, social media.
I won't be perfect and don't expect myself to be. That's totally not the point. I'll just do it my way.
I may emerge out of my cave by February 1...or, maybe Spring.
I'll simply trust that my body will sense the updraft of spring energy, then effortlessly, I'll ease myself back into my full routine, renewed, revitalized, and ready to take on the world!
Hibernation appears as if nothing is happening. Don't be fooled. Even female bears give birth during their heavy sleep, semi-hibernation stages!
Are you feeling the call to hibernate or semi-hibernate this winter?
If so, what's one or two ways you could scale back?
How will you nourish and restore yourself?
What support do you need to put in place?
Receive a journaling resource to assist you in your introspection by e-mailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Time to Hibernate
by Karen Tasto
Karen helps you tune in and turn on to your feminine powers so you can break out of your good girl box, ignite your inner goddess, and live the life you desire. She works as a certified professional life coach, Reiki master, & women's sacred circle facilitator. She also teaches workshops and leads retreats. www.karentasto.com
Get the On Purpose Woman Magazine delivered to your inbox!
By Kathryn Yarborough
if time and money were not an issue, what would you really want to experience, do, or achieve?
I’m a conscious manifester.
But for years, I hadn’t manifested anything intentionally.
I’ve been working with manifestation tools since before the turn of the century. Around 2006, I was divinely inspired to call myself a manifestation coach. In 2018, I launched the Manifesting Clients Academy, and my current mission is to teach heart-based entrepreneurs how to manifest clients.
So why wasn’t I intentionally manifesting anything?
In early 2019, I realized it was because I didn’t know what I really wanted. I didn’t have a clear vision for the future that excited me and that I wanted to manifest.
So in 2019, I set out to explore the process of visioning and to discover what I wanted for the future. I started by asking myself:
My answer included vague ideas, images, and sensations like being the fullest expression of myself, feeling successful, and experiencing financial abundance. To begin the manifestation process, I wrote stories about the future where I was experiencing these things. I call these types of stories, “big vision” new stories.
A Big Vision New Story
A “big vision” new story is helpful when you don’t know what you want because, through the process of writing it, details will come to you. For example, in my new story about “being the fullest expression of myself,” I discovered that I want to speak and lead my own events.
But a “big vision” new story doesn’t lead directly to manifesting specifics – like filling your events, speaking opportunities, or new clients. It can shift your vibration so that you’re more magnetic to what you want, but to manifest clients or a particular experience, most of us need to be more specific with the stories we’re telling ourselves.
Manifestation is the art and practice of visioning your future, feeling like it’s happening now, and taking aligned action as if you’re the person who is already experiencing what you are manifesting.
A Time-Delineated Vision
I continued to explore the process of visioning and discovered what I call a time-delineated vision. It answers the question:
A time-delineated vision considers where you are today and what might be possible over the next three months (or whatever time period you choose). It includes specifics. And if it’s a good vision, it moves you forward on the journey of manifesting your big vision.
For example, over the next three months, I see myself doing two successful Manifesting Clients Hooplas in central Florida (near where I live). I see myself writing a book and sending it to my editor. I see myself working with clients in my Manifesting Clients Classes. And I see myself having conversations with new potential clients as they decide to work with me.
If you turn your time-delineated vision into a “new story” about the future, you can imagine having these experiences and feeling the good emotions that go with them. This begins the process of manifesting it. The more often you see this vision in your mind as if it’s happening, the more likely it is that you’ll attract it and take the action steps needed to manifest it.
Your 2020 Vision
To create a vision for your business and your life in 2020, answer the question:
Once you’ve written your 2020 vision and you’ve sat with it long enough to know that you truly want to manifest it, turn it into a new story that you can read and edit daily until you manifest it. (If you want to learn about how to use the process of writing a “new story” to manifest clients – or anything you want, you can access a free training video on my website.)
In 2020 and over the next 12 months, what can you see yourself doing that you’d really like to experience?
Kathryn Yarborough teaches heart-based entrepreneurs how to manifest clients and grow a business they love. She is the creator of the Manifesting Clients Academy and an inspirational speaker. To find out more, go to her website and watch her free video on how to change the story you’re telling yourself so you can manifest more clients. www.ManifestingClientsAcademy.com
Over the next three months (or whatever time period you choose), what can you see yourself doing that you’d really like to experience?
Money Mindset Transformation
A Personal Story of Worthiness
by Laura Di Franco
I’m calling the Baby Boomer generation and Gen X the worth transformation generations, and I’m challenging any woman who doesn’t have her money mindset quite right yet to claim it today.
Why money? Because it seems to be the tough one, the last frontier of mindset practice that everyone gets stuck in. Next to worthiness, of course. Interesting how the two intertwine and create a big, fat mindset mess for most of the women I know.
If you’ve dabbled with your own money blocks, you know two things. 1) This is a hot coaching topic right now, and it seems everyone and their uncle is teaching it. And 2) This is a mindset game that can be both profoundly healing and transformational.
The second thing is exciting to me. Hence the explosion of coaches teaching it. I like to talk and write about awareness. So instead of teaching you anything here, I’d like to share some personal story and insights in hopes that you’re excited, like I’ve been, to wake up to what could possibly change your life for the better.
What I learned growing up and what I carried well into my adult years is that you had to be perfect to get paid. That you had to bust your ass to get paid. And that you would always have to rely on someone else (usually a man) for abundance. Yikes!
First of all, I don’t remember my parents or grandparents sitting us (my sister and me) down to talk about money. Ever. And so, what my thoughts and beliefs became was the stuff I made what I saw them do mean. In other words, the crap I made up in my head about what I heard and saw. I began telling myself a story about money that just wasn’t true.
So nice to be able to realize this now; that my adult mindset was crafted by what my adolescent brain made it all mean. Wow, that’s scary.
I was raised by two generations of entrepreneurs, mind you. I’m a little disappointed in them actually. They had such an incredible chance to teach us what they learned about money and business.
Here’s what happened instead. My grandparents paid us for A’s in school. I was not paid for a B. So what that meant was, “You have to be perfect to get paid.”
I’m not sure where the second one came from; the “You have to bust your ass to get paid.” I’m guessing it had something to do with barely seeing my father and grandfather. They’d come home from work, sit down, get served food by their spouse, and then they’d pass out. Was that really what “success” looked like? Ugh.
I started working as soon as I could get a work permit. That was 15 1/2 in California back then. I worked a lot, and it seemed like it was never enough to have what I wanted. I still always had to ask to borrow more money.
And so the third belief started. “You will ultimately have to rely on a man (or someone else) to give you what you need.” This was even after watching my own single mother work and provide for herself, me, and my sister for years.
My mom was a badass. And she deserves a lot more credit than I ever gave her for what she accomplished and how she supported us. You’re a badass, Mom. I love you.
Today, as a divorced mom entrepreneur, I’ve been working on my worth as it relates to money, wealth, and abundance. The biggest thing I’ve realized is that I have to detach from what I make anything mean. The limiting beliefs from the past don’t serve me, and I had to make room for something more helpful.
To really practice the awareness it took to create a change, I found myself following some steps. I had to do several things, as a regular practice, before the transformation began to occur. I had to:
1. Recognize the limiting belief in the first place, like call myself out on the bullshit regularly.
2. Move and shift that energy. I used journaling at first to write down what I noticed.
3. Understand my bigger vision for my life and finances. I used journaling for that too.
4. Create positive affirmations and healthier, more aligned thoughts and beliefs.
5. Practice thinking, believing, and speaking them out loud every day.
6. Reclaim my worth as a woman and a businesswoman.
7. Completely detach from how my wealth would be achieved. I used meditation.
8. Be grateful, every day, for what I already had.
9. Realize I was already living my dream.
10. Continue to give myself permission to dream bigger and live into those bigger dreams unapologetically.
The last thing I’d add to the awareness and discipline I’ve created around this topic is a kind of action taking that cultivates the motivation, courage, and confidence everyone is hoping they’ll have to be able to live into their dreams. The secret is that you have to actually take the actions, including investing in your worthy self, before you’ll feel those things.
If you’re working on “money blocks” this year and you’re fed up with your own BS and ready to make a change, awesome! You have the awareness. Now you need to add the bold actions that will help move you in the direction of all those big dreams of yours!
Time to get comfortable in your discomfort zone and go for it. The biggest money mindset transformation for me was realizing that the investment in myself, my business, and my dreams was worth it. That I was worth all of it. And you are too.
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Laura Di Franco, MPT can help you have fun with fear and write, speak and share words that leave the legacy you were born for. Time to be brave! Email Laura at email@example.com
Laura’s ready to help you change the world with your words. Find her at www.BraveHealer.com
Alicia was introduced to art by her grandmother, who made her living by painting American landscapes in watercolors and oils. Alicia never quite got the hang of watercolors (or oils, or painting in general), but found her niche designing digitally. Alicia was the On Purpose Woman Magazine designer for the 13 years we published a print magazine.
Once You Know Your Purpose, Then What?
Ginny Robertson interviewed by Kathryn Yarborough
Get the On Purpose Woman Magazine delivered straight to your inbox!
Be Willing to
Go on the Ride
by Andrea Hylen
It was a warm, sunny summer day when we gathered with our relatives at the local water park. I spent most of the day in the kiddie pool and lazy river with my five-year-old daughter, Hannah, and seven-year-old niece, Susannah. I liked the rhythm of the slow, lazy river, and I was content and happy to be there. All of the older kids and adults were in the bigger pools and slides.
As I meandered around the lazy river, I had glimpses of the biggest water slide in the park. A desire started to bubble in me as I watched the older kids and adults go down the slide. It looked like they were all having so much fun, and something inside of me began to yearn for the experience. Every time the thought came up, I pushed it down with my inner dialogue of fears and doubts.
“I am happy in the lazy river.”
“Wheeee, look how happy Mary is.”
“She likes the water. You would hate getting water in your face and up your nose.”
“Ah, look. Elizabeth is waving to me from the top of the slide! I want to do that.”
“You are afraid of heights. It is too high up there. You will feel dizzy. It won’t be fun.”
At the end of the day, I was packing up all of our belongings to head home, and at the same time, I was noticing the dwindling crowd of people waiting in line for the slide.
When I packed up the last items, something burst inside me. I dropped the bags of towels I was carrying and declared to the group that I had to go down the slide. I stepped out of my flip flops, threw off my sundress to reveal my bathing suit, and before anyone could stop me, I walked over to the inner tubes, grabbed one, and walked quickly up the flight of stairs to the top of the slide.
At this time of day, there were only a few people in line. My heart was pounding so loud in my chest I thought it would explode. The fears and doubts were getting quieter and my YES!! was a sound that was screaming in my head. I had to go down this slide, or I would regret it forever. I asked the attendant to help me with the inner tube and hold on until I was ready to go down. Then, with a simple command of Now, he gave me a good swift push and down I went.
Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! WhEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! Round and round I went. Happy, mixed with a little fear and a giddy excitement. As I neared the bottom of the slide, I held my breath and my nose and closed my eyes, preparing for the final big SPLASH!
Exhilarated and triumphant, I found my way to the edge of the pool, ran over to my family, and prepared to leave the park. Everyone cheered as I wiped myself off with a towel grinning ear to ear.
In the last issue of On Purpose Woman Magazine, I shared a story about Discovering My True Potential. Out of that experience, I made a list of Eight Tips for Building an Innovative Business and Life.
The first tip:
Be willing to go on the ride
This tip begins with a simple desire, like wanting to go on the water slide or a bigger desire, like starting a business. To build an innovative business or life, begin by asking questions like:
What business can I create that will be fulfilling and income-producing?
What experience do I want in life?
What business idea is bubbling, as a desire?
What’s the next step?
1. Tune into your inner voice.
2. Listen for the desire or find a question to ask.
3. Write the desire.
4. Say, “Yes!”
5. Wait for the next inspired action step to appear.
6. Take action!
As soon as you say yes, things begin to shift. That is the #1 key for this step. Say Yes, and be willing to go on the ride. The first thing that shows up may be something you need to clear and release. It could be things that are taking up too much of your time or beliefs that are limiting you. You may need to exercise a new muscle to strengthen some of your skills. Things like standing up for yourself or the practice of receiving help. Whatever you need, the Universe will provide you with the experience. You are on the ride. Keep saying yes. Be willing. Take inspired action.
That moment of saying Yes to the water slide and pushing through the fear while experiencing triumph is now a touchstone. It’s an experience I carry with me when I can feel a bubbling desire. I ask myself:
What would have happened if I hadn’t gone down the slide?
What would my memory of that day have been?
Instead of limiting me, it opened up the door to listening to desires and feelings and my intuition. It is a touchstone of the willingness to go on the ride!
Andrea Hylen is the Author of Heal My Voice: An Evolutionary Woman’s Journey and Creator of The Writing Incubator, on-line writing community. www.andreahylen.com
As soon as you say yes, things begin to shift.
A Bridge To Wholeness. Jennifer Crisp, RN. Bridging the gap between western and complementary medicine practitioners. www.abridgetowholeness.com
At Length. Jewell Machlan. The Rolf method and therapeutic massage. This method is amazing! Give it a try! www.atlength.org
BEMER Distributor. Doria Musaga. BEMER therapy improves blood flow to increase energy. Decreases pain, chronic fatigue, aids recovery from injury. 667-786-1032
Blue Lotus Physical Therapy & Wellness. Joyce Fishel DPT. Specializing in Holistic Pain Relief & Therapeutic Movement. 443-650-8886 www.BlueLotusPhysicalTherapy.com
BotaniCuisine.com. Nancy Poznak, MS. Plant-Sourced Dining Outreach, Consultation, Marketing, Dining Guides, Plant-Based Info & Coaching. 443-384-7890
Brave Healer Productions. Laura Di Franco, MPT. Have fun with your fear and share your healing message with the world! www.BraveHealer.com 703-915-3653
Cortney Chaite. Protocol for maximized gut-brain health and improved mental wellness. 410-215-6022 firstname.lastname@example.org https://www.facebook.com/cortney.chaite
Explore the Dark Heart. Lisa Diane McCall, CLC. Creative, intuitive coaching removes sabotaging blocks to hear your deeper wisdom. 443-802-9500
www.GerisePappas.com. Transformational Life Coach & Enneagram Facilitator working with growth-oriented individuals ready to replace fear-based habits with inspired action!
Grey Swan Inn. Christine Hasbrouck. Five guest room B&B for business & leisure travelers, small retreats, and solo guests. http://www.greyswaninn.com
Holistic Healer, Life Coach, Money Mentor. Sandy McDougall, helping on purpose women gain clarity, courage, strength, stability, ease. email@example.com.
Hustle with Heart Coaching. Erin Harrigan. Helping "stuck" entrepreneurs rediscover their joy and align results with God's truth. firstname.lastname@example.org 443-684-3131
Ingrid Dallaire. Realtor Long and Foster. "Service and Results with a Personal Touch"
www.IngridDallaire.com Ingrid.Dallaire@LongandFoster.com 301-455-6962
Jewels By Jerri. Jerri St. John. Independent Consultant with Paparazzi. https://paparazziaccessories.com/jewelsfromjerri 410-274-3712
KWE Publishing. Kim Eley. Bringing magic to authors to transform their idea into their amazing published book! www.kwepub.com
Light of Truth Center, Inc. Vaile Leonard. An Innovative Behavioral Health System for women recovering from substance use. www.lightoftruthcenter.org 443-393-2109 email@example.com
Lilia Shoshanna Rae. Author of The Art of Listening to Angels, Reiki Master, firstname.lastname@example.org www.LiliaShoshannaRae.com
LNK Creative: End cold calling! Ellen Koronet designs magnetic quizzes and surveys, showcasing brand brilliance and attracting loyal, satisfiable customers! www.LNKCreative.com
Love YOUniversity. CortneyAnne Budney. Guiding awakened coaches and healers to spiritually, strategically and collectively uplevel life, purpose and prosperity. www.LoveYOUniversity.net
Love YOUniversity. Julia Coplan. Guiding awakened coaches and healers to spiritually, strategically and collectively uplevel life, purpose and prosperity. www.LoveYOUniversity.net
Manifesting Clients Academy. Grow the business your heart longs for. Training and support with Kathryn Yarborough. www.ManifestingClientsAcademy.com
Maria Petrucci, DC. Craniosacral Therapy, Chiropractic, and Mind-Body Tools to alleviate pain and stress. www.nourishing-journey.com. 240-394-2037. email@example.com.
Music 4 More. Deidra Stevens. Non-profit that repairs and recycles musical instruments into music programs for schools and veterans. www.music4more.org
Nourishing Journey Café & Wellness Center. Jennifer Palmer. Healing Bodies ~ Opening Minds ~ Uniting Hearts. Columbia MD. www.nourishing-journey.com
On Purpose Woman Community Connections Over Coffee. Ginny Robertson.
6 monthly meetings in Maryland and one in Richmond VA. www.OnPurposeWomanCommunity.com
On Purpose Woman Connections Thru Conversation. Ginny Robertson. 4 monthly meetings online via Zoom. www.OnPurposeWomanCommunity.com.
On Purpose Woman Magazine. Contact Ginny Robertson for advertising rates, writing for the magazine or being our cover artist. www.OnPurposeWomanMagazine.com.
Open Heart Healing. Karen Tasto. Tune in & turn on to your fullest feminine expression. Coaching, Reiki, women’s circles. www.karentasto.com
Patricia Iris Kerins. Soul retrieval and voice empowerment coach, healer and channel, working with women who are spiritually awakening. www.patriciairiskerins.com
Plexus Ambassador. Natalie Gallagher. Natural plant-based health and wellness supplements and skincare, balancing blood sugar, reducing inflammation and healing the gut. https://plexusworldwide.com/nataliegallagher
Positive Power Publishing. Stephanie Mensh. Helping people with stroke and disabilities and caregivers live full lives. firstname.lastname@example.org www.strokesurvivor.com
Problem Solved. Errands & Organizing. Deidra Stevens. We provide solutions to get your to-do list done! www.linkedin.com/in/deidrastevens/
Rebel Magic Books. Sue Fitzmaurice. A boutique publishing house offering experienced coaching, editing and publishing services for women with a story to tell. www.rebelmagicbooks.com email@example.com
Saskia Fokkink. Feeling stuck? Holding yourself back? Clear your subconscious blocks with the powerful subconscious release technique SRT.
Soulful Business Coach Dawn Shuler - I work with women business owners to play bigger by focusing on systems. www.SmartBusinessFromYourSoul.com
Soul-utions Hypnosis. Beverly Hamilton CHt. Restoring health and vitality through Hypnosis, Reiki and Aromatherapy. FREE self-hypnosis recording: www.Soul-utionsHypnosis.com HypnoAromaBev@gmail.com 410-663-5089.
“The ABCs of Conscious Parenting: Bringing Ease and Joy into your Relationship with your Child.” By Jill Mann Pekofsky. A “tool-box” in a book! firstname.lastname@example.org
Find it on Amazon.
Trades of Hope. Michele Silva-Dockery. Empowers women across the globe out of extreme poverty. Beautiful handmade jewelry and home decor! www.mytradesofhope.com/MicheleSilvaDockery
www.TheChrisaGroup.com. Chrisa T.S, Public Speaking Coach. Speak up. Show up and Share your message with presence and influence. The world is waiting for you.
Virtually Nat - Digital Marketing Agency. Natalie Gallagher. Growing businesses through web design, web maintenance, SEO, and social media strategy. https://virtuallynat.com
Wise Words That Matter. Krista Giannak. Writing and PR, getting businesses and nonprofits noticed, uncovering untold stories. Blogs, bios, articles, webpages. (631) 505-4011 www.wisewordsthatmatter.com
Your High Vibe Business by Brave Healer Productions. Laura Di Franco, MPT. A Business Building Community and Mastermind for Healers http://YourHighVibeBiz.com
List YOUR Business
Find out how.
Click for information
Advertise with us!
The Time is Now to Own Your Power
by Nancy Kobel
I was getting ready to walk into his office. A bit nervous but undeterred. It was a conversation I had to have. I was choosing courage over comfort, going in with an open mind, and generous with my assumptions. With the tools I learned from Crucial Conversations, we were in dialog.
During this courageous conversation, he expressed that I was different than other women. “They” didn’t know what to do with me. One suggestion was for me to turn down my light so as to not make other women uncomfortable around me. Considering how long it took to own my light and the work I do, this was not a viable solution, nor one I was willing to implement.
I am not here to turn down my light. I am here to help you turn up yours.
My message for you:
When you feel uncomfortable around another woman (or man), and you start to question your own value, your own worth -- this is what I want you to know:
You’ve had the power all along.
I know you’re scared. You feel insecure, that you’re not good enough. Others tore you down, took the very essence of who you are and made you feel like who you are was not enough. Not OK.
Well, I’m calling bullshit.
You are amazing and beautiful, and there is a crown that wants to sit on that gorgeous head of yours. Your crown, full of jewels and crystals and all your favorite colors and stones.
I know you’re scared. You may get hurt. Your defenses are up. It makes sense. You are merely surviving, not thriving. But you, my dear, were meant to shine like those crystals in your crown. You, my dear, were meant to be more powerful than you can even fathom at this moment.
How do I know? It is around us. I see it. I’ve witnessed it. There are those that have tried to take our power away. Both men and women, boys and girls. Why?
Because we are so powerful…it’s scary. You have no idea. You can’t see it.
Rise up, shine, and take those people with you. Get that crown on your head. Do what you must. The world needs more compassion and love right now.
And men, we need you to stand up beside us! We want to do this with you!
And if you get scared (which you will), and you are ready to fight or flee or freeze or numb in some way to escape it all or distract yourself Stop and Breathe. Put down the sword. Stand tall. Choose Courage. And remember: You are not alone.
You have a whole sisterhood standing strong beside you, We are here. We see you. We love you, and we will protect your crown. And you have brothers too, those that want to protect you, see your beauty, your strength, and want you to rise up in all your power. We are your Allies. You are not alone. Your crown will make its way back on your head.
Our earth, our world, our communities, and our children are depending on it. It is going to take courage, something we all have the ability to develop. It isn’t easy, but it is contagious. Are you ready?
Nancy Kobel is a Certified Professional Leadership Coach and a Certified Dare to Lead™ Facilitator. To learn more or work with Nancy: Nancy@leaderinspired.com or www.leaderinspired.com
Click to listen now!
You Said You Loved Me
by Tammie Mobley
You said you loved me
You said you cared
But your love has left me broken and in despair
I want to tell my family
I want to tell my friends
But I am so ashamed and scared of how this all will end
You see, we have been down this road before
I tried to leave, but you blocked the door
What happened to our joy?
What happened to our dreams?
My smile and laughter is gone and instead has turned into screams
I once thought that this love would last forever
But if you asked me now if I would take you back, I would probably answer never
The lies and deceit have left me defeated
and when you didn’t come home last night, in my heart, I know you cheated
Nevertheless, I wiped my tears and put on a smile
and tell myself I know he will be back, because can’t no other chick match my style
In my heart I know I should leave, I know I should be free
But I continue to stay in this misery
I’m still holding on, and I want to believe in the love we once shared because
You said you loved me
You said you cared
When we are raised in brokenness, we bring that brokenness into our future relationships. We become the person that we never wanted to be and get involved with a person who mirrors the person that first broke our heart.
I was raised in a home where the head of our household spent his earnings on gambling rather than rent. Instead of a home filled with words of encouragement and a feeling of safety, my home was filled with profanity and fear. My father provided the foundation of what my future relationships would resemble.
For years I stayed in a relationship that was emotionally, mentally, and physically unhealthy. I wore a mask to cover up a life that was filled with broken promises and infidelities. There were times when we would take a break from the relationship, but we would find ourselves back to each other. Did I need him, or did he need me, or did we need each other? Our abnormal relationship became normal and what we both thought love was, was actually a flawed perception of two people not being truthful to themselves.
Eventually, the truth was revealed, and tragedy filled my home and life. You never know how resilient you are until your world crumbles in front of you, and you have no other choice but to move on.
Moving on involved finding out who I was and the woman I was becoming. I was no longer the little girl shivering at the sound of my father’s voice. I was no longer the young woman who thought love was defined by gifts and meaningless words.
I have become a woman who speaks and empowers from my scars and not my wounds. I know now that words without action are just words, and the best relationship I can have is the relationship that I have with myself.
I found my voice. I found my purpose. I found love.
Tammie Mobley is a Certified Women’s Empowerment Coach, Girls Coach, and the owner of Flawless Imperfections.
FB-Flawless Imperfections IG-Flawless_Imperfections_llc
Tell the truth…Is your New Year’s Resolution for 2020 to write your book, but now you’re nervous about it because you’re afraid? Unsure? Frustrated?
I get it.
For years, I considered myself an author without a subject. I was the one people turned to for writing advice. Everyone said, “You’re a great writer!”
But when I wanted to write my own book, it seemed impossible.
It was too hard.
I didn’t have time.
I didn’t know where to start.
It wasn’t until 2016 when a crisis shook my world that I knew nothing was more important than sharing my message with the world. It meant so much to me that in 2017 I quit my steady full-time job to become a writing coach and publisher.
Now business is good. Life is good! I make a living by helping writers like me - like you - who don’t know where to start. I’m delighted that fifty writers became authors and published their books because they worked with my company, KWE Publishing.
I want YOU to experience success and publish your book this year! I will share practical methods and steps for writing, and encouragement to inspire you to achieve your dream of writing your book!
Let’s get started!
Make It Happen
I’ve seen it because I’ve lived it. “I’m gonna write a book!” You declare it to yourself. You might even say it out loud. You dream about holding your book in your hand. You envision being at an incredible book signing with people lining up to get your signature on your book. You imagine being at a party saying, “Yes, I’m an author!”
And then you don’t do anything about it.
Inertia is a tendency to do nothing or remain unchanged. It’s so easy to do, and so deceptive. Doing nothing seems comfortable. And it is comfortable in the short term. Binge-watch TV, get sucked into social media or go out for drinks. But your desire to write is still there. And then it becomes painful.
You had the desire to write a book because you have an important message to share! And in the long term, that desire will still be there, gnawing at you. It’s a feeling of defeat that will not sit well with you.
STOP THE MADNESS! Make it happen this year. Make the commitment.
In the short term, it will not be comfortable. Inertia is a powerful force. But you are stronger.
You Need To Know This & Be Prepared
You need to be prepared to:
Make a commitment.
Say it out loud! Tell everyone you know.
Ask someone to be an accountability partner for you. Make sure it is someone you trust, who will encourage you but will not let you off the hook too easily.
Know that you are a writer. And you have the ability to write this book.
Make a plan for success! If you wanted to lose weight, you would likely create a diet and exercise plan. The same applies to writing.
Identify your goal. Do you want to write a blog, an article, a book? Specify your goal for your writing.
Figure out how best to fit writing into your schedule. Know what time of day works best for you.
Is writing easier for you early in the morning before everyone else in your household is awake?
Would it work better to write during your lunchtime?
Or are you a night owl who is more creative at night and prefers to write before you go to bed?
Schedule a committed time to write and stick to it.
You likely brush your teeth every day at the same time…schedule a writing routine for the same time each day.
For example, commit to writing for at least ten minutes a day at the time of day that works best for you. Sit down and spend the time writing. At first, you may not feel inspired, but as you continue this practice, your brain will get into the habit of writing.
Know you’re not alone.
I’m here for you, other writers are here for you, and you can reach out to lots of resources. Here are a few:
Reach out to a writing coach - I know, big shock, I’m a writing coach recommending you get a writing coach! But it doesn’t have to be me. Choose someone who will work with you, bring out your best, and be a trusted accountability partner.
A writer’s group - Collaborating with others in a good writer’s group is incredibly rewarding. As writers, we often write alone. Most writers are introverts. Something amazing happens when we get together, support each other, hear, and listen to each other. You grow together, improve your writing together, and support one another.
Self-publishing companies - Check out Ingram Spark and Book Baby. They are self-publishing companies that offer lots of support. I attended a Book Baby Indie Author Conference in November 2018, and it was amazing! There were great vendors, speakers, and people who work for Book Baby, who answered questions. It was a marvelous event and a great resource.
Start your journey by envisioning the end of your journey. Picture yourself holding your book, signing it at your book launch, and walking by a bookstore and seeing your book in the window. Now, work backward. How do you get there?
Join me in future issues of On Purpose Woman Magazine as I write more about the steps you can take to make your dream happen. Be prepared - it’s like starting a marathon. You’ve gotta start slow and develop your writing like a muscle.
But know - YOU’VE GOT THIS!
Every Day You Write the Book
Steps to Make It Happen In 2020
by Kim Wells Eley
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
“Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on.”
Kim is a speaker, author, & publisher. A cat lover and a collector of orchids, she gets all of her news from comedy channels. KWE Publishing (804) 536-1972 email@example.com www.kwepub.com
Click for More Info
Since my late 30’s, I’ve wondered if the next decade’s birthday might be the one where I start to feel like I’m aging. That hasn’t happened. With each one of those milestone birthdays, I feel healthier, more energized, more excited about life, more loving in my relationships, and more certain of who I am, what’s important to me and what I stand for.
Now that there is more time behind me than in front of me, I find it critical to make living in the moment a practice.
There are a lot of things going on in your life that may keep you from living in the moment. These are big ones:
Guilt does have a purpose, but most of the guilt you feel is useless. Guilt is one of the reasons you are overscheduled and overwhelmed. Your drive to avoid guilt can be so ferocious that you’ll say yes to almost anything in order to escape its grip.
While a life without some guilt is unrealistic, a life immersed in guilt is unbearable.
You cannot live in guilt and live in the moment. They cannot occupy the same space because guilt is a past-based emotion.
It has been said that resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. Resentment eats away at you and keeps you in the past.
What do you get from guilt or resentment? Your first answer may be “nothing.” I don’t buy that because we humans are pretty smart about always getting a payoff for our behavior. When the payoff doesn’t seem positive, it’s challenging to see what you’re getting out of it. Just bear with me a minute.
One payoff for guilt may be that you get to protect an image you have of yourself as a good person. A really bad person wouldn’t feel guilty, would they?
So guilt can get you off the hook and let you think you are actually doing something productive. Just know that feeling guilty is not an action step.
One payoff for resentment may be that you get to stay in judgment. You don’t have to step out and look at alternatives, to try and understand what happened or to see the other person’s point of view. You just get to be right.
One key to easing guilt and resentment from your life and living more in the moment is forgiveness of yourself and others.
Remember, forgiveness is always about you, not the other person. Forgiving someone does not mean that what they did was ok or that you want to be their friend. It means that you are letting go of the resentment so you can move on.
Worry is a future-based emotion so, again, it keeps you from living in the moment.
One payoff for worrying may be that you get to pretend you’re doing something about a situation. It feels like you are in action when you’re really stuck.
If you practice noticing when you are feeling guilty, resentful, or are worried about something you have no control over, and as you simplify your life and let go of your past and future grievances, you can fill the space they occupied with something greater…Gratitude.
When you are grateful and acknowledge your blessings, there is no space for guilt, resentment, or worry.
While you may be grateful for something that has already happened or might be happening in the future, the act of gratitude is very much a present moment experience.
I have been writing in a gratitude journal for going on 25 years. That practice keeps me more grounded in the present moment and, as a result, I am more inclined to notice the blessings around me as they are happening.
You cannot experience living in the moment when you are in a state of overwork and overwhelm and feeling like you don’t have a minute to yourself.
You don’t have to commit to 30 minutes of meditation a day or to go to yoga three times a week to create the feeling you’re yearning for. I believe these are helpful practices that you may want to pursue; however, to expect that you’re going to go from 0 minutes of self-care a day to a commitment like that is unrealistic, and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Make a list of things you can do in 10 minutes or less that will help you be in the moment. Maybe it’s 10 minutes during lunch at work, 10 minutes before your children wake up or after they go to sleep, 10 minutes while dinner is cooking, 10 minutes before you turn on your computer in the morning.
Here's a few ideas to get you started:
Send a Card
Dance/Listen to Music/Move Your Body
Take a Walk/Be in Nature
Notice the Beauty/Blessings Around You
Watch an Inspirational Video
Write Down What You’re Grateful For
Tell Someone What They Mean to You
I call these Joy Moments. They will take you out of where you are, and the more you do them, the more you will find time to do them and maybe do them longer. Imagine replacing 10 minutes of feeling guilty, resentful, or worrying with 10 minutes of joy every day.
Make living in the moment a practice.
by Ginny Robertson
Forgiveness is always about you, not the other person.
Ginny Robertson is the Founder of On Purpose Woman Magazine and the On Purpose Woman Community. Go here for info on community gatherings and other happenings. www.OnPurposeWomanCommunity.com.
Our next issue
is coming March 1, 2020.
On Purpose Woman Magazine is for women and by women. I am proud to be a part of it. Our voices matter. Our businesses matter. Our leadership matters. And what we care about matters.
Thank you for your part. This magazine exists because of women like you who read it, write for it, advertise in it, contribute in any way to it, and share it with their friends.
Kathryn Yarborough, Creative Director
Ads are due Feb. 20.